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For some fear is present right from the beginning.This sudden sensation of feeling “alone in the world” which shows that at a certain moment there was a withdrawal of investment, an absence of linking… that a tender movement did not come, was not given, was not received… and did not care for and think about the strange form that the expected infant’s body was taking. Will the infant suffer permanently from this “formlessness”? An important gradation (problem of loss vs a problem of not coming into being) would still need to be distinguished: the waiting not of the one who no longer has anything to wait for, but of the one who has never had anything to wait for; the desperate waiting of the one who has had a harmonious experience with the object (and who has acquired a certain substance, awareness and knowledge from it) and the dehumanized ( désespécée, from Beckett’s “loss of species”) waiting of the one who has not had it, the waiting in an empty or full inner world for an internal object.